If the breakdown is inevitable and you just couldn't avoid it, (read about avoiding a breakdown by clicking here) see the immense opportunity in it. Yes, I know, when you are down, destroyed, and lying on the side of the road smoking (reference to my car) there IS opportunity. Don't roll your eyes. I know this sounds woo woo, but maybe Deepak can change your mind.
Deepak Chopra, a person I greatly admire, says that in every problem we face there is an opportunity that awaits you. It's your choice whether you seize it or not. In order to seize it, you must recognize that the opportunity exists.
When you recognize, you gain the chance to rebuild. Even in the wake of complete annihilation you can pick yourself, or your business, or your car up and start again....
Here's how you do it.
1. Lay there a little while, smoke pouring out of you, or as my good friend Vicki Pozzebon puts it..lying in a "pile of your own snot on the floor." Eventually, someone sees you and has the energy to help. Basically, don't try to go at it alone. Enlist the help of friends, family, complete strangers to help get you off the ground, to push you to the gas station, to wipe your tears. You need the energy of someone else because in that moment you are completely depleted of yours. Rely on this, it's okay to show you are human and need help. Nobody thinks you are REALLY Wonder Woman. They know underneath the bright blue boy shorts and gold tiara, you are human.
2. Once you are up. Give yourself some time to take in everything that led up to this event. Talk about it, journal about it. Just don't try to fix it yet. It's good if you can give yourself some time to learn HOW you got here. You can't fix something until you understand fundamentally what went wrong. You don't figure that out, at least not most of the time, until you do some digging. So dig, unearth and discover what led to your breakdown.
3. You will discover what happened, and it will be really clear. Once you are clear, start rebuilding. Start to gather the books, advice, tools, hugs, wine bottles, all the things you need to build your strength, courage, will, motivation, self-esteem and inspiration back into your life. I know this sounds hard. But, I promise, when you get CLEAR on what led you to the breakdown, you will want to do whatever it takes to NEVER have it happen again. So, you will know what you need to do. Trust that your body knows and it will guide you.
4. Share with others. Sharing builds your strength up even faster. When you can talk about what happened you are sharing something human, something that can happen to anyone. People start to relate. The best thing that happens with sharing is that people that can help you and want to help you start showing up in your life. So, after the rebuild there is maintenance...these people will help you with the maintenance. They show up during various intervals in your life to help maintain the new beautiful you you've rebuilt. Mostly, you are more glowing and beautiful on the inside, where it counts the most. Your body might still look the same, but you're definitely not the same.
The most significant shift is that you come out of it with a brand new perspective on life. When you change your mind, creativity cracks wide open. So the opportunity in breakdown...creativity galore!
Here's to your Illumination,