If the breakdown is inevitable and you just can't avoid it, (read about avoiding a breakdown by clicking here) find the immense opportunity in it. I know...when you are down, destroyed, and lying on the side of the road smoking (a reference to my car) there IS an opportunity. Don't roll your eyes. I know this sounds woo woo, but maybe Deepak can change your mind.
Deepak Chopra, who I greatly admire, tells us, in every problem we face there is an opportunity that awaits. It's your choice, whether you seize it or not. To seize it, you must recognize that the opportunity exists.
When you recognize the problem, you gain the chance to rebuild. Even in the wake of complete annihilation, you can pick yourself up, or even your business or your car up and start again...
Here's how you do it...
1. Lay there a little while, smoke pouring out of you, or as my good friend Vicki Pozzebon puts it..lying in a "pile of your own snot on the floor." Let the shock wear off. Eventually, someone will offer their energy to help. Friends, family, complete strangers...will help you off the ground, push you to the gas station, and wipe away your tears. You need another person's energy because at that moment you are completely depleted of your own. It's okay to show you are a vulnerable human. Nobody thinks you are REALLY Wonder Woman. They know underneath the bright blue boy shorts and gold tiara, you are human.
2. Once you are up. Give yourself some time to take in everything that led up to this event. Talk about it and write it down. Just don't try to fix it yet. Give yourself some time to learn HOW you got here. You can't fix something until you understand fundamentally what went wrong. You can't figure that out until you do some digging. So dig, unearth, and discover what led to your breakdown. Learn...
3. You will discover what happened. It will become crystal clear. Once it's clear, start rebuilding. Gather the books, advice, tools, hugs, wine bottles, all the things you need to rebuild your strength, courage, will, motivation, self-esteem, and inspiration. I know this sounds hard. But, I promise, when you get CLEAR on what led you to the breakdown, you will want to do whatever it takes to NEVER allow it to happen again. Trust your body and your mind for guidance.
4. Share with others. Sharing builds your strength quickly. When you can talk about challenging experiences, you share in being human. People start to relate. When you share, people that can help you, and genuinely want to help, start showing up in your life.
After the rebuild, comes the maintenance. People will also help you with maintenance. They show up during various intervals in your life to help you shine and maintain the new beautiful you that you've become. You are more glowing and beautiful on the inside after recovering from a challenge. The inside is where it counts the most. Your body might still look the same, but you're definitely not the same.
The most significant shift is that you come out of the challenge with a brand new perspective on life. When you change your mind, creativity cracks wide open. There is opportunity in the breakdown and creative abundance!
Here's to your Illumination,